Alana asks: A boy asked me for sex. What should I do?
Hi Alana –
Well, I’m going to assume, from your question, that you don’t think that having sex with him right now is a good idea. So my first answer to you is that the best thing for you to do is to say “No.” Clearly and unequivocally.
However, I don’t want to give the wrong view here. The boy hasn’t done anything wrong. He Continue reading
muttman asks: In the beginning of my 5th grade year I was dating this girl. Then I went to the 1st day and saw someone else that I liked. Now at the end of 5th grade, I like the girl from before (the other girl cheated), but people are telling her not to date exes. What should I do?
Hi muttman –
You are dealing with a very interesting problem. Basically, it sounds like you’re trying to get the girl (the first one) to like and trust you again, even though you left her for someone else. And her friends are telling her not to go out with you again. So you have three things against you: First, anyone’s natural hesitation or distrust; Second, the fact that you’ve done something to prove that distrust right; and Third, all the stuff her friends are saying. So how do you get past that?
I can only come up with one suggestion. It might seem a little Continue reading
Sazuna45 asks: What does Shirelle mean?
Hi Sazuna45 –
Well there’s a story about that. You see, when Handsome first got me, he didn’t have any idea of what to name me, but he didn’t want it to be something “clever,” like about my color or breed. He wanted it to come to him organically, about my essence.
Then, after he’d had me a few days, he started to get a little frustrated at just calling me “Puppy” (or “Knucklehead,” which they’d called me in the Continue reading
apple eye asks: If we want to lead our life in a my way style but others oppose it, then what should we do? Rebel? Or shut up?!
Hi apple eye –
I want to turn your question around, to make a point: How can a person know that they’re living in a ‘my way’ style? The answer, of course, is that they’re doing what other people oppose!
If Handsome takes me on a walk, and I heel, sit, stay, and come every time he says to; if I pay a lot more attention to where he is than the squirrel down the street or the dog barking from behind that nearby window; if I don’t jump on the person he stops to chat with – I might be living my way. But if I pull on the leash all the time, ignore everything Handsome says, bark at other dogs, try to get away to chase that squirrel, and jump right up our neighbor’s Continue reading
born to help asks: How can I make the president feel what the needy people are feeling, when they can’t afford to feed their children?
Hi born to help –
I don’t know what country you live in, but I think this is a great question about leaders of all sorts of places.
Throughout history, societies have picked leaders who they thought would understand the needs of the poor and helpless, and they’ve often been very disappointed, as the leaders become more concerned with other issues. Maybe they’re at war with other groups, or fighting to keep their position, or they’re just enjoying the company of the rich and powerful too much to do anything about the people who Continue reading
Martha asks: What is peer pressure?
Hi Martha –
Peer Pressure is a very simple thing, but with very complex consequences. Basically, people do things for one of three reasons.
First, because they want to: a baby cries, crawls, burps, because it feels like it; similarly, if you see a yummy cookie that you forgot was in your house, you might eat it, just because you feel like it.
Second, people do things because they’re directly told to. A student does their homework because they’re supposed to. A driver stops at a red light because that’s the law. Maybe you refrain from eating that cookie, because your Continue reading
sazuna45 asks: Do you know any song about a girl who likes a guy but the guy never notices the girl and keeps on changing his girlfriends? Or about a girl who likes a guy and she cries for him and cares about him but he doesn’t know? She loves his smile by the way.
Hi sazuna45 –
As you probably have noticed, I’m a great lover of music. And so I do have some thoughts on this. But I know there are hundreds more songs out there I’m not thinking of, and thousands I’ve never heard. But here are five goodies:
#5: Adele’s Continue reading
143chafern asks: I’m a competitive swimmer and I really love it. The thing is, my dad keeps pushing me – like, if I don’t swim well, he gets all moody. He expects me to perform well, and at the same time to do my studies also. I do manage my studies, and keep in good shape, but nothing is enough for my Dad! I feel so under pressure! I can’t be an Olympic swimmer and an A+ student at the same time! When I told that to my dad, he said there are many kids of my age who can, but… why can’t he understand I’m not them?!
Hi 143chafern –
This is not a new problem. I don’t know who the first person was who cared about succeeding in a competitive world, but the first one of those who had a child began this problem. And the problem has existed ever since.
There’s no easy answer. You’d be miserable if your father didn’t notice or care, or take pride in your swimming prowess. But this situation stinks too. I have no doubt that your dad means well, and just wants to press you to do your best, but the fact is he’s pushing too hard.
I’ll be honest with you, 143chafern – I’m very encouraged by your insistence that you’re good enough without meeting his Continue reading
doonn asks: How can I make my girl friend happy?
Hi doonn –
Okay, so here’s the bad news first. You can’t.
The awful, annoying, heartbreaking truth is that you can’t make anyone happy. If someone’s going to be miserable or angry or sad or depressed, you probably can’t change that.
However, you can try. And that’s a great way to spend your life. You can tell her jokes, you can buy her a nice dinner, you can send her flowers, you can compliment her, you can give her a shoulder-rub, you can kiss her on the earlobe… all of these are good, if they’re what she Continue reading
gaga asks: What may be the effects of the solar cycle 24 starting on December 21, 2012, in our social life?
Hi gaga –
There seems to be some confusion here. Solar Cycle 24 is a period of sunspot activity, and began in 2008. It’s expected to peak in 2013 when we have over 90 sunspots.
The thing about 12-21-12 is a belief that, well, the world is going to come to an Continue reading