How do you build trust for someone who’s done wrong things in their past?
princess23 asks: I saw that boy I like last week, and our mutual best friend told me that he said I looked really pretty, and she told me that every time he sees me he tells her the same thing. I used to see him like a crush, but now I think I’m really starting to like him. Sometimes I feel like I should tell him I’m starting to have feelings for him, but I’m scared that he’ll say he can’t be with me, cause he just got out of a relationship that was kinda complicated! I feel that I have to get over him and not show interest, but he can say all the right things at the right moment. I know that maybe he isn’t the guy for me (or maybe he is) but he has done things wrong in his past and I’m afraid he’ll do them to me. Is it normal to feel this way? I don’t know what to do, I’m super confused please help me!
Hi princess23 –
You’re right you’re super-confused. You’re so confused you’ve got ME all confused now!
So if I have this straight, you like this boy and are getting to like him more; you know he’s at least very attracted to you, and willing to tell your friend about it; and the main reason you don’t want to approach him is that his last relationship was “kinda complicated” and he did some wrong things.
Is all that correct?
If so, what you’re really dealing with is two issues. First, the usual shyness that comes with being attracted to someone. For those, I have a bunch of posts on the AskShirelle website. Just use the Search box and type in words like “shy, crush, like, love” and you’ll get a bunch.
But then we get to the “complicated” part. Now when you say he did some wrong things, do you mean that he’s gotten in trouble at school, maybe got caught Continue reading