Brena asks: Can a boy live far away from me and fall in love with me?
Hi Brena –
Quick answer: Yes! It happens all the time!
The question is, what is that boy falling in love with? For example, all us dogs are really obsessed with smell. So there’s no way we could fall in love with someone we couldn’t sniff out. People tend to be more interested in sight and sound – they are attracted to other people’s looks and the sound of their Continue reading
Brittany asks: I just started summer vacation, and I’m excited. There was this girl in my class who wears make-up and dyes her hair (we’re talking about fifth grade here). I also have a YouTube channel, and I made a video of me and my friend doing random stuff. At one point in it, I told that girl to jump off a cliff. I was just playing, but when this kid in my class found it, everyone saw it. It was a while ago when I posted it, but people started taking it seriously. Near the end of the year, her mom came on a field trip, and I got chewed out. She told me to take it off of YouTube before she told the principal, but I couldn’t and it never came up again. The girl also said she was moving, but she’s still one of my Facebook friends. Should I be happy, scared, or ashamed right now?
Oh Brittany, this is a lot! Let me divide it into three answers:
First, about your posting that video. This is a huge problem, as you probably know. Nobody who ever lived before now ever experienced anything like the Internet. It used to be you could say something like “That mutt across the street stinks like he rolled in a litterbox,” and even if everyone in the neighborhood repeated it, we’d be talking about relatively few ever knowing about it. But today, something goes online, and it’s instantly viewable around the world, and hundreds, thousands, millions, billions could watch it. So the good news is that you got this experience at a very early age, and so can learn the big lesson: Be really careful about what you post online. Especially if you say anything against anyone, you’ll have to live with what you Continue reading
Angelbrat asks: Hey Shirelle, I have a friend who moved away from our town to study. We keep in touch by texting and e-mailing each other, and she seems unhappy. She always wanted to study spa and later make her own business but her mum made her decisions and she has to study Management. She tried to talk to her parents but nothing worked. Plus she has to do all her lessons in Dutch. Gosh, that is hard. As a friend it breaks my heart to know that she is really unhappy. How can I help her??
Wow Angelbrat, you’re right, that does sound hard! Both for your friend and for you!
It’s one of the hardest things for anyone with a big heart, to see someone they love going through a really tough time. We feel so helpless! I’ve watched Handsome go through everything from breakups to operations to hard classes, and not been able to do anything to help him.
EXCEPT – and this is really important – I always told him that I loved him. He’d be sitting all miserable on the couch, and I’d bring him a toy, or he’d be having a tough phone call and I’d walk up and lay my head on his Continue reading
eyobkunu asks: How do we encourage kids to talk freely to their parents, and not keep secrets?
Thanks for asking this, eyobkunu. It’s a fascinating question.
I’ve said on here before that dogs never lie, but you bring up a great point, that dogs also never keep secrets. So I’ve had to really struggle to understand exactly what secrets are, and why people keep them.
The whole point behind secrets is that most people are very social, and love to tell most things in their lives to most of the people they know. It really makes people feel good. When I meet other dogs, I interact with them by sniffing them, playing with them, maybe some wrestling, maybe some barking, lots of chasing. But when people meet, they usually, except for a quick handshake or Continue reading
sunny asks: How can I be a good son, and make my parents happy?
Hi sunny –
What a wonderful question. It’s a great goal, to want to make anyone happy – whether it’s your parents, or a stranger, or a nice dog who loves to give advice. There’s just one problem with it: you can’t.
If you look at the June issue of The Pawprint, you’ll see a big piece I wrote about how to make yourself happy. But the awful truth is that you can’t make anyone else happy. I know, it’s crazy! Giving them what they want should be enough! But sometimes…
You know, Handsome loves me more than anything else in the world. But sometimes something goes bad with his work, or a friend hurts his feelings, and suddenly he’s just not happy. It doesn’t mean he’s mad at me, or that I’m doing anything wrong, but no matter how many chew toys I drop in his Continue reading
cool asks: What are the reasons for lack of discipline among youths?
Hi cool –
Well I am exactly the right one to ask about this! Because I was a terrible puppy! I loved to drive Handsome absolutely nuts with biting, chewing, yelping, escaping, jumping on strangers, anything I could do! And when I say “puppy,” I really mean until I was around 3 years old (which in dog years means 21!).
So why was I so undisciplined? Lots of reasons. The main one was that it felt Continue reading
1 asks: I’m a teacher in primary school. I want to know how I can give guidance to children about jobs.
Hey 1, good for you! So many teachers avoid talking with young children about jobs, and only teach them official subjects. But kids want to know about jobs, and it really helps for them to see how their book-learning applies to the work they’ll be doing in the big world some day.
At the same time, because you’re teaching Primary school, you’re going to face a lot of kids who (correctly) have dreams that extend beyond their Continue reading
Charis asks: I don’t know what has gotten into me, that makes me feel so self-conscious these days. I used to be unbothered with what I wore, only caring about whether or not it’s comfortable. But now, I think of how people would think about me, and whether my so-called fashion sense would allow me to fit in with my other friends. However, my friends said that I have a very ‘Auntie’ style. I usually wear long jeans with a sweater. To me, it’s just being conservative so as to avoid giving guys the wrong impression. But, to my friends, I am being a coward by being scared to show some skin. I tried to shop for slightly-above-knee dresses, but I felt uncomfortable in them. I can’t take it anymore. What do I do?
Well Charis, here’s the good and bad news: Welcome to Teenagerhood! It’s great that you got to spend your childhood being a sensible girl who cared mainly about comfort, practicality, and safety. Now here all that intelligence goes – whoosh – out the window!!
Now am I saying you’re not intelligent anymore? Of course not. In fact, in many ways, you’re smarter than you’ve ever been. But now that you’re a teenager, some things matter that never mattered before. Like just how important other people’s opinions are, and whether or not you’re attractive to the people you’re attracted to. And especially Being Continue reading
Angelbrat asks: I’m supossed to do my IGCSE exams in November, and yet I don’t feel like I’m ready! I’m always babysitting my little brother and at times I don’t have time for my studies! What should I do? Do you have any method of studying that can help me? I’m counting on you, please!
Hi Angelbrat –
It sounds to me like you’re dealing with two issues. As far as the question about study methods, I’d refer you to CaNdAcE’s question about school tips for teenagers. I threw some good stuff in there, if I do say so myself!
But I think you have a bigger problem than just study techniques. And that’s called Time Management. It’s hard for teenagers to manage time anyway, and you’re supposed to be babysitting your little brother – so how can you possibly get everything done?
The answer is the most boring word any teenager ever hears: Continue reading
beliberXD asks: I am 14 yrs old. I feel so bored in the summer holiday I do not what to do (except to hang out with my friends). There is nothing fun to do. I always ask my parents to go out to somewhere, but they are busy and they do not allow me to hang out with my friends. Can you tell me what can I do, in this boring holiday summer, that would make me feel happy? Thank you.
Oh beliberXD, this is what makes me the saddest about 14-year-olds. You’re too old to want to sit around playing toys, but too young to take the car out and go exploring. Then it makes it even worse that your parents aren’t allowing you to hang out with your friends! Do they really not want you to see your friends at all, or is it just that they won’t let you hang out as much as you’d like (or as late as you’d like!)?
The way you describe it, I don’t know exactly what I can suggest. So I’m going to make a bunch of suggestions, but each will be based on a question: