Is it right to stay with someone when you’re not expected to live as long
GREED asks: My Girlfriend has a heart problem. She says that it would be a waste for me to stay with her, because she can’t trust her health, or might die young. She says that I am the only son in the family, so I should find someone better. I told her “in times of sour or in times of sweet we will have it together.” What does she want or mean? And what should I do? How to deal with her?
Hi GREED –
My friend, if any member of my pack has a name less fitting than yours, I’m not sure who that’d be. Any woman, and likely any man, who reads your letter is just going to melt, and wish they had someone in their life who loved them as unconditionally and beautifully as you love your girlfriend. I’m going to declare you an honorary DOG – your love is just that perfect!!
Humans are innately subject to self-esteem problems, and while most people suffer for sillier reasons (“I’m not good looking enough,” “I’m not rich enough,” “I’m not popular enough”), your girlfriend has a devastating one: she has, possibly, a low expectancy for the length of her life. I can’t imagine how awful that must be.
And she is being kind. She feels you deserve a woman who can live with you for your lifetime, who can be counted on to raise children with you, who can be a help to you and not just the other way. She doesn’t feel worthy of you. And that is beautiful, and heartbreaking.
So you want advice? I’ll give it straight here to you: I want you to Continue reading