Sravani asks: I want to be alive with happiness, but I can’t because of my mentality. Sometimes it feels like I wanna to die but I can’t.
Hi Sravani –
You’re right. The only way to be alive with happiness will be to change your mentality. And there are lots of different suggestions out there on how to do it – and I’m sure most of them are right for different people. But you wrote me, so I’ll tell you how we dogs do it!
First, look for what’s interesting around you. There’s always something. A smell, a sight.
Now, look for what’s beautiful around you. And if there’s nothing that you see, can you change something to make it beautiful? Put a picture up, or get a flower?
Now, listen for what’s beautiful or exciting. And if you can’t pick up anything, put on some music you love.
Now, smell, or better, eat something you really adore. Super yummy.
And then, sit back and think about all this. You just experienced so many pleasures. Things only you enjoy as much as you do. And try to feel grateful for them. Regardless of what you believe or don’t believe in – just feel some gratitude for having seen a bird, and heard that Cardi B song, and tasted a pomegranate!
Now, do that as often as you possibly can.
And what you’ll begin to experience, as your mind (literally, the workings of your brain) changes, is the realization that there’s always beauty and excitement around. Even when things really stink.
And the more you pursue these, and the more you share them with others, the happier your days will be.
Now sure, there’s a lot more to do – there’s growth and dealing with old pains and there’s learning and there’s passion. But right now, I just want some simple basic joys.
I think you’ll find it works. It does for my whole species!
All my best,