I’ve been single for some months now but there are two guys currently trying to get me to be their partner. I’m confused on who to choose, because frankly speaking I don’t want a boyfriend. Just one whom I could end up getting married to. And they are both sweet people. Is there anyway or anything I could do to know who amongst them is the best choice for me?
Hi Juicybest –
Thanks for your question about the two guys.
I’m very glad that both these guys are sweet people, because you deserve to be treated well! But I’m going to disagree with your question.
You ask me which of them “is the best choice for me.” But I don’t know if either of them is. Does one of them make you laugh so hard things come out of your nose? Does one live a life you find inspiring? Does one treat someone in his life so well that you know he’d make a good partner for you, or perhaps even a great father to your children? Does one love (or at least tolerate) the music and movies and books that matter most to you? Does one of them treat your family members well? And maybe most important of all, does one make you feel excited at the prospect of seeing him?
If you were stranded on a deserted island, then yes, I’d agree that you’d have to decide between these two guys. But you’re on a planet with over three billion male humans! And you’re asking which of these two is the right one for you?
Maybe one is just that great. Or maybe both are – I don’t know. But my advice is to enjoy their attention and see if, at some point, one of them gets you flipped. Until then, I’d worry that you’d just get involved with this guy and then meet someone else who does knock you out, which would only result in hurting a good guy.
I know you’re tired of being single, but treat yourself with enough love and honor to wait for someone great enough to deserve you!
All my best,