I’m in a new relationship that’s barely up to a month, I called my boyfriend three days ago at night; a girl picked up his call and started asking me who I am. In the background I could hear him telling her to stop and give the phone back… do you think I should let go of the relationship?
Hi Juicybest –
Okay, as a dog I have a pretty limited imagination, and even I can come up with a few scenarios for this situation: She’s his sister, she’s his ex who was there trying to win him back, she’s a friend who thought this was funny, she’s…
I don’t know. And neither do you.
But you do know someone who does know, who knows everything you want to know:
I can’t guarantee that what he says will be true, but the only way for you to comfortably move forward is to ask him what was going on.
But wait – this happened three days before you wrote me? What’s he said in the meantime? Have you guys talked? At all? Has he offered any sort of explanation? Have you confronted him on this?
If you can let me know what he’s said (if anything), I might be able to help more. But for now, just give him a chance to respond. Then, if his response stinks… sure, throw him out with the garbage! But if it’s okay and sounds believable? Maybe he deserves your trust for at least a bit more.