Blck-pantha asks: Recently I sent you a message about my boyfriend who has a second girlfriend. I confronted him and asked him to choose, but he refused and told me he couldn’t, and that he’d rather break up with the both of us. What should I do?
Hi Blck-pantha –
I have to admit, I’m shocked. He really said he’d rather break up with both of you than have just one girlfriend?!
Well, I hate to say it, but I think he just answered your question for you. He’s being odd, but he’s being honest. He wants to have two girlfriends, and he’s saying it very openly.
So I have just one question for you: Would you be okay having a boyfriend who has another girlfriend?
If your answer is yes, then there’s no big problem – you two can date and see what you think of each other over more time.
But if your answer is no, then he’s simply not the right guy for you. Even if the other girl broke up with him, it sounds like he’d be out looking for another to replace her.
So I’m guessing I know which of these you’d say, but it’s really up to you. What sort of guy do you want to be with? Once you decide, the choice of what you should do ought to become very clear.
Best of Luck!
Shirelle