Jess_daniel asks: Me and my best friend, Jamie, got into a big fight. We’ve been friends for 4 years. It’s been going on for 2 weeks and every time I say hi or anything she says she’s busy. I miss her so much and I just want to be friends again because I don’t know what id do without her. Please help me.
Hi jess_daniel –
This is so hard, and I really relate. There have been times when I really upset my human friend Handsome, and I want to make things better but he just pulls away. I go jump on him, and he pushes me off. I bring toys and put them into his lap, and he just lets them drop onto the floor. I bark at him to play, and he puts me outside.
Now the difference between our situations is that this treatment from him lasts maybe an hour at worst. He’s so crazy about me that he always wants to scratch my ears before long. While you’ve been dealing with this for weeks, and don’t know how much longer it will go on.
But you have one advantage I don’t. You can leave her a phone message, or write her a letter. And tell her everything you’re feeling. And even more importantly, you can tell her what you’ve learned since that fight, about how important your friendship is, and maybe how you’ve thought more about her point of view and you can see her side better.
In fact, I’d say the best thing to do would be to write your feelings out on paper, and just walk up to her and hand it to her.
And include in it that you know she’s been busy, but you just miss her like crazy.
It’s REALLY hard to stay angry at someone who goes to that much trouble, and who shows that much remorse, and who expresses that much love.
I know. If it weren’t true, I wouldn’t be getting fed tonight! And I’m not only getting fed, but I’m getting TUMMY RUBS as well!!!
Best of luck my friend! Welcome to the pack!