Wolfy asks: I have a friend. He is being really weird lately. Our schedules got changed, and he ended up in two of my classes. We first met last-minute studying for a test, and he got all of them right. We are friends now and we were cool for a while. But then he started kinda ignoring us (me and my group of friends), but still came when I called him over. This was weird because we were working together, but he wasn’t with us as usually. We asked him why, and he said he worked better with the other people because he didn’t really like them. Oddly enough he kept going to them after the work was finished. Well, that stopped. He sticks with us now. Just a few days ago though, he and I were the last two in class (besides the teacher) and he told me he wanted to ask me something. But he noticed that someone forgot their notebook. I looked down the hall and they were gone. Just then a friend I was going home with called me, so I caught up with her. He caught up with me and told me a really weird pointless story. As he walked away I asked him if that was what he wanted to tell me. He said no, and left. The next day I saw him was two days later. So, I asked him about it. He said he had no idea what I was talking about…. sigh. I asked my friends and they said maybe he likes me. He has told me who he likes. Showed me a picture of her even. He knew her before he knew me. I don’t know what to make of him anymore. Any ideas?
Hi Wolfy –
Sadly, as I’ve had to tell so many people, I’m a very smart dog but I’m not psychic. I have absolutely no idea what is going on with him! I’m inclined, though, to think your friends might be right. He might be interested in you for more than studying!
But here’s the tough part – he might not even know it yet! The teen years are just about the craziest time any human ever goes through, and it sounds like his mind is going in circles at 800 miles an hour. One moment he just has to tell you something because it’s so important, and later he’s avoiding you or saying (truthfully or not) that he doesn’t even know what it was.
My advice to you is to step back and not worry about what he thinks of you – and rather, to figure out what you think of him! How would you feel about it if he did tell you he liked you? What if he actually hooks up with the girl in the picture, or if he says he’s not interested in her anymore?
Until he comes down to earth, and starts acting in some rational way, you’re best off just standing back and being amused. But once he does, he’s likely going to express some real, consistent, emotion to you (about something). So know where you are, and what you want (and what you don’t), so you can be ready for it!
And in the meantime, have fun! He sounds hilarious!