Tizolina asks: Hi, I am 14 years old and I kissed my boyfriend. Is that bad?
Hi Tizolina –
Wow, I kissed my first boyfriend when I was probably about four days old! And I’ve been kissing boyfriends, girlfriends, my mom, strangers, teachers, scary dogs, and most of all, my best friend Handsome, ever since. I can’t imagine going through a day without lots and lots of kissing! What would life be without that?!
But of course, doggy kisses are treated very differently in our world than the kisses of a 14-year-old to a boyfriend. Some people don’t like being kissed by dogs because they find us dirty or sloppy (total idiots if you ask me!), but our kisses are never controversial in the way yours can be.
This is because, when it comes to teenage romance, there are so many different values that different people have. There are people in the world who say that teenage girls should be covered in public; there are others who find it normal for girls to be married and having children by your age; and I’m a dog who has no right to say who’s right and who’s wrong in this. So when you ask me if your kissing was “bad,” I can only answer on my terms, which are very different from religious or cultural morality.
See, what I care about is that you’re happy and safe. It breaks my heart to see teenagers (or adults) scared to interact out of some awful fear; and it hurts me even more to see people devastated because they did or allowed things they didn’t want or weren’t ready for.
So my answer to you is what I’ve said on here a lot: If you liked kissing him, there’s probably nothing wrong with that. But make sure you’re staying true to yourself. Don’t take things any further until you’re sure you’re ready. And that means that you’re sure in terms of how you feel about him, and in any religious beliefs you have, and what you’d be comfortable with other people knowing, and especially how you feel about yourself when you’re alone at night lying on your pillow looking up at the darkness.
I have never regretted kissing anyone! And for what it’s worth, I can’t imagine why I would! But what matters most is what you feel.
After all, if kissing doesn’t make you feel good, then why bother!
Sending you a big smooch (and that is NOT bad!),
Shirelle
