Rockie asks: I want to find out how I can make my boyfriend fall in love with me again
Hi Rockie –
Love is an incredibly complex and difficult power, and its workings have confused humans forever. But as a dog, I understand that it’s also very simple. So I’m going to give you a very simple answer, but that doesn’t mean your relationship with him isn’t also very complex, with tons of aspects I know nothing about!
Here’s my answer: if he’s fallen out of love with you, it’s because of one of two things. Either nothing has changed (and he’s getting a little bored or taking you for granted), or something has changed (maybe he doesn’t like a change in you, or maybe he’s changed, or maybe he’s met someone else).
And similarly, there are two solutions. One is, if nothing has changed, to change things up a bit. Suggest doing some different things together, dress differently, talk about things you’ve never discussed, jump on him and lick his face till he screams (okay, that’s what I’d do but maybe it’s not right for you two!).
And the other is, if things have changed, to talk about them with him, and see what he wants. Maybe he wants the old you, and that’s possible, or not, for you to be again; maybe his views on things have changed and he’d be very interested in whether you’d be willing to join him on his journey; and maybe he’s interested in someone else, and there’s nothing you can do about it but to hope he changes his mind.
What these all add up to, Rockie, is that nothing I can suggest will make anyone fall in love with anyone, but there are things you can do to make this guy feel heard, comfortable, excited… whatever it is that would stop his feelings from continuing to change.
Once you do that, the rest will be up to him. And at that point, I can only wish you the best of luck.
(Or, the ability to realize that you two shouldn’t be together, and that that’s okay too – you can free each other to find better relationships and happier lives)
But meanwhile, BEST OF LUCK!