How to find true love

mhaneva asks: How will you find a true love?

Hi mhaneva –


The way you phrase your question, it sounds like you’re asking how I will find true love.  Oh mhaneva, I found Handsome, and I found a wonderful boyfriend too, an Akita-Chow mix named Kuma, and between those two, I’ve got the truest loves I could ever hope for.


But I like to think of your question in a different way:  How can anyone find true love?  Now I have lots of questions and answers on the AskShirelle website about when and how to get girlfriends and boyfriends, but you’re asking something else – how to find Love.


Well, the answer is simple, and very very difficult.  You find Love in your own heart.  But that can take some work.


You see, one advantage about being a dog is that I feel love all the time.  I love so many scents that you can’t even smell, and so many activities that you stopped loving when you were a child (like running, playing tug-of-war, or just barking at nothing).  But I also suffer from love all the time.  Handsome goes off to work, and I’m heartbroken!  Every day!  And when he’s around, I miss my other friends.  Dogs just love all day long, and that creates as much misery as happiness!


So how to find true love?  I’d recommend that you start by making a list of things that you really really love.  Not the things you’re supposed to love (your little brother, everyone, your enemies, etc.), but what you really love – foods, music, maybe your dog?  And then start to think harder.  What else is there that you really love?  The smell of early morning?  Your grandparents’ dining room?  A holiday?  A movie you haven’t thought of in years?  And once you write out all of those, then try again… but this time, close your eyes and sit alone, and see what comes to you.  Someone’s voice?  A memory of a perfect day?  Maybe the looks of someone who you could never dare speak to?


And the more you do this, the more you’re letting yourself feel all that love.  And the more you do that, the more you’re building up your heart – yes, just like any other muscle, a heart can be built up! – and the more ability to love too.


And you’ll find, if you do this every now and then, that you’re becoming more loving as a person.  You’re more accepting of others, and more appreciative as well, grateful for what you have.  And also, you’ll find yourself more excited about more things – “hey, I love music so much, I can’t wait for the new album by so-and-so,” “I love pretty girls so much, I can’t wait to see the new girls at school this year,” “I love so many foods, I can’t wait to see if Handsome brings me back leftovers from the new restaurant he’s going to tonight!”


And the more you do that, the more you’re allowing yourself to love.  And the more you do that, the more open you are to True Love.


And when that special person comes along, you will just be overwhelmed by how much you love them.  And they will be bowled over by all the love that exudes from you.


And THAT, my friend, is what it was like when I met Handsome!  So I know!


Best of luck to you, manheva.  And thank you for such a wonderful question!





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